Category: Guides for the future

Obviously I’m being facetious. Smash a plate and it usually has to go into the bin. The cracks that exist may end up cutting the user while eating, no matter how much we try to sand over the cracks. It still befuddles me how some can argue that cheating improves a relationship. Some say that…

Trust, once broken, feels almost impossible to glue back together. If you’re reading this, you’re probably carrying a heavy heart. Maybe, despite the hurt, you realise you still love the cheater, and reconciliation is on your mind. I’m usually quick to encourage people to dump cheaters, but I think it’s important to talk honestly about…

Revenge is a dish best served cold, but sometimes, not the best dish to actually indulge. Studies have shown that revenge can activate the same parts of the brain as addictive narcotics. It’s so easy to fall into the trap of wishing the worst on both the cheater as well as the affair partner. I…

When your friend cheats, staying neutral might feel like the easiest option. It avoids confrontation, preserves the status quo, and spares you the discomfort of getting involved. But ethical responsibility demands more than passive silence. But what feels like the middle ground often isn’t as neutral as we’d like to believe. Sometimes, the ethical choice…

Or, why some things aren’t worth acquiring — even if they endure In December 1787, Lieutenant William Bligh set sail on HMS Bounty with a single, noble aim: to transport breadfruit from Tahiti to the Caribbean. The plan, backed by the respected botanist Sir Joseph Banks, was to provide enslaved people with this so-called miracle…

Six years. A shared future. A life built together. And then I found out about the cheating. When I told a friend I’d walked away from it all, including losing my coveted public housing subsidies, she was taken aback momentarily. “But given the sunk cost, couldn’t you have tried to find a way to forget…

If you are reading this because you have been betrayed, be kind to yourself – it’s a traumatic thing that has happened to you.  It’s okay to scream, and to cry. You’ve been betrayed and it probably feels lie the wind has been knocked out of your lungs. But after the storm passes, when the…

Dating a cheater, whether they cheated on you or someone else, is a bit like buying a used car that’s already broken down once. Sure, it might run smoothly for a while, but you’ll always be listening for that suspicious rattle. Could it work out? Maybe, by some miracle. But the world is full of…