Category: Guides for the future
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Friend cheated on significant other
When your friend cheats, staying neutral might feel like the easiest option. It avoids confrontation, preserves the status quo, and spares you the discomfort of getting involved. But ethical responsibility demands more than passive silence. But what feels like the middle ground often isn’t as neutral as we’d like to believe. Sometimes, the ethical choice…
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Reconciliation: the Modern-Day Breadfruit Hunt
Or, why some things aren’t worth acquiring — even if they endure In December 1787, Lieutenant William Bligh set sail on HMS Bounty with a single, noble aim: to transport breadfruit from Tahiti to the Caribbean. The plan, backed by the respected botanist Sir Joseph Banks, was to provide enslaved people with this so-called miracle…
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Regretting the Sunk Cost
Six years. A shared future. A life built together. And then I found out about the cheating. When I told a friend I’d walked away from it all, including losing my coveted public housing subsidies, she was taken aback momentarily. “But given the sunk cost, couldn’t you have tried to find a way to forget…
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On Stoicism after being cheated on
If you are reading this because you have been betrayed, be kind to yourself – it’s a traumatic thing that has happened to you. It’s okay to scream, and to cry. You’ve been betrayed and it probably feels lie the wind has been knocked out of your lungs. But after the storm passes, when the…
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Cheating is the most scarlet of all flags
Dating a cheater, whether they cheated on you or someone else, is a bit like buying a used car that’s already broken down once. Sure, it might run smoothly for a while, but you’ll always be listening for that suspicious rattle. Could it work out? Maybe, by some miracle. But the world is full of…