On Forgiveness

Forgiveness is often seen as the ultimate act of healing, but here’s the truth: you don’t have to forgive someone who has betrayed you. Forgiveness is a deeply personal choice, and it’s not a requirement for moving forward. What truly matters is finding a way to reclaim your peace and rebuild your life. Sometimes, that means letting go without forgiving—and that’s okay.

If the opportunity for justice or accountability arises, and it comes at little cost to you, then by all means, take it. But don’t let vengeance consume you. The best revenge isn’t about retaliation; it’s about thriving. It’s about proving—to yourself, not them—that their betrayal didn’t break you. As the saying goes, “The best revenge is massive success.”

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

There’s often debate around whether cheaters (or those who commit other moral transgressions) are capable of change. Some argue that people can learn from their mistakes and grow into better versions of themselves. But here’s the reality: trust is fragile, and once someone has demonstrated their willingness to cross certain moral boundaries, it’s only natural to be cautious. After all, these boundaries—honesty, loyalty, respect—are foundational to healthy relationships and society at large.

A cheater has already shown that these boundaries don’t hold the same weight for them as they do for others. While they may seek redemption or claim they’ve changed, it’s not your responsibility to give them the benefit of the doubt at your own emotional risk. 

Redemption is their journey—not yours to facilitate.

To draw a parallel: we wouldn’t expect someone to trust a person who once committed serious crimes like theft or violence without evidence of significant change over time. Why should infidelity be any different? Betrayal leaves scars, and it’s perfectly reasonable to protect yourself from further harm.

Moving On Is Key

While forgiveness might not be necessary, moving on absolutely is. Holding onto anger or resentment can keep you tethered to the pain of the past. Moving on doesn’t mean forgetting what happened or excusing their actions—it means prioritizing your own happiness and well-being over the weight of what they did.

This doesn’t mean suppressing your emotions or ignoring injustice—it means choosing not to let betrayal define you. Instead of dwelling in bitterness, channel that energy into building a life so fulfilling and abundant that their betrayal becomes irrelevant.

A Final Thought

Infidelity can leave deep wounds, but it doesn’t have to leave you broken. Whether or not you choose to forgive is up to you—there’s no right or wrong answer. What matters most is finding a path that allows you to heal and thrive. Focus on yourself, your growth, and your future. Success—emotional, personal, and professional—is the greatest triumph over betrayal.

Remember: moving on isn’t about letting them off the hook; it’s about freeing yourself from their shadow.