Chumpterarian Economics

Bycrownednotclowned

Schumpeter showed that economic development undergoes waves of creative destruction. Innovation peaks and then declines, with a rise precipitated by some new radical technology. https://blog.oceanprotocol.com/creative-destruction-how-to-prepare-for-the-paradigm-shift-49efd34e0fd8 Borrowing Chump Lady’s terminology of Chumped for the cheated, you’ve gotta realise that you’re just at the trough, and this is a spur for something better. Unfortunately, neither romance nor…

The Contortions You May Face From a Cheater

Bycrownednotclowned

“Oh, but I didn’t want to hurt you!”This is a classic excuse, often uttered as if it absolves the cheater of their actions. But let’s be honest—if they truly didn’t want to hurt you, they wouldn’t have cheated in the first place. Cheating isn’t an accident; it’s a deliberate choice made at the expense of…

Regretting the Sunk Cost

Bycrownednotclowned

When faced with the fallout of infidelity, it’s natural to feel a deep sense of regret over everything you’ve invested in the relationship—the time, effort, love, and dreams you built together. You may find yourself asking, “Was it all for nothing?” or even feeling tempted to stay in the relationship simply because of how much…

There are no two sides to a story of infidelity

Bycrownednotclowned

There are two sides to every story…. This phrase is often used to justify actions or explain away wrongdoing. But when it comes to infidelity, the idea of “two sides” rarely holds up. Cheating is a betrayal of trust, and no amount of justification can erase the harm it causes. While relationships can be complicated…

Cheating is the most scarlet of all flags

Bycrownednotclowned

Building a relationship with a cheater is not just difficult—it’s statistically stacked against you. The effort required to restore trust is immense, and in most cases, it simply isn’t worth it. Dating a cheater, whether they cheated on you or someone else, is more often than not setting yourself up for failure. Could it work…

On Forgiveness

Bycrownednotclowned

Forgiveness is often seen as the ultimate act of healing, but here’s the truth: you don’t have to forgive someone who has betrayed you. Forgiveness is a deeply personal choice, and it’s not a requirement for moving forward. What truly matters is finding a way to reclaim your peace and rebuild your life. Sometimes, that…

They Aren’t Jekyll and Hyde: Who They Really Are Underneath

Bycrownednotclowned

When I first discovered I had been cheated on, my mind instinctively tried to compartmentalize. I wanted to believe that the woman I loved and the person who betrayed me were two entirely different people—like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. It felt easier to think of her infidelity as some temporary lapse, an aberration that…