It can feel incredibly lonely when you realise someone you once loved has betrayed your trust. Please remember, it’s not your fault for believing in the wrong person. Anyone can be cheated on, and you’re certainly not alone in this.
Sadly, there are plenty of people out there who will lie and deceive to get what they want. Some people, no matter how decent they once seemed, can turn out to be completely untrustworthy. Even those who look like the perfect partner from the outside can end up being anything but.
Even those in the public spotlight cheat when they can lose everything
Take singer Andy Hui, for example. He was caught on camera in a rather compromising situation with TVB actress Jacqueline Wong, even though he was married to Sammi Cheng and Wong was dating Kenneth Ma. I’ll admit, I’m a bit of a fan of Sammi’s music and a big fan of Kenneth Ma’s acting, so this news did get under my skin. Sammi chose to forgive Andy, while Kenneth decided to end things with Jacqueline. The point is, no matter how successful or attractive you are, anyone can find themselves on the receiving end of someone else’s selfishness.
There are countless other examples. In 2010, Singaporean filmmaker Jack Neo was caught having an affair, which shocked many given his reputation for making films with a moral message. Then there’s actress Jang Shin-young, who had to deal with her husband’s infidelity being splashed all over the news. In 2020, Japanese actress Anne Watanabe divorced her husband after discovering he’d been unfaithful while she was pregnant. They seemed like the perfect couple, which made the betrayal even harder to believe.
The truth is, infidelity can happen to anyone, regardless of fame, wealth, or background. No matter how trustworthy a partner can be, or how desirable you are, your partner could cheat on you for no reason other than their own selfishness and irrationality. The pain you’re feeling is real and completely valid, but it doesn’t define who you are. Many people have been through this and come out the other side, free from the burden of a cheating partner. You will too.
It’s just a random pothole in the walk in life
Life is akin to a walk along the street. Sometimes the road is smooth, and we enjoy the stroll. Sometimes, there’s a pothole because someone damaged the road and it wasn’t fixed. Maybe you trip in that pothole and scrape your knee. It’s nothing you could have foreseen or otherwise avoided.
People get unlucky all the time, whether it’s being caught up in an accident or facing an illness. You might hear people say things like, “others have it worse,” but that doesn’t mean your pain isn’t important. You’re allowed to feel upset. What’s happened isn’t because of some flaw in you. You just happened to cross paths with someone who didn’t deserve your trust. It really is just bad luck, and the good news is, luck has a way of balancing out over time.
Remember, being cheated on says everything about the person who was unfaithful and nothing about your worth. Cheaters often try to justify their actions, but their choices are their own. You trusted, and that was a strength, not a weakness.
As you work through this, be kind to yourself. Lean on friends, family, or a counsellor if you need to. Healing isn’t quick or easy, but many have walked this path before you and found happiness again.
You’re not alone, you’re not foolish, and your ability to trust is something to be proud of. Give yourself time to heal. Brighter days are ahead, perhaps with a bit more chocolate, or a new hobby, or just the knowledge that you’ve survived something tough and come out stronger.
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